不懂愛,該怎麼做?
性福導師說
♥ 從愛情延伸出的性行為,不僅夠親密,還有快感
♥ 做愛是一個心靈與另一個心靈的肉體交流
以生物學的角度來講,所謂「性交」、「交配」是動物為了繁衍後代必定會出現的關係。許多動物透過本能來進行這個行為,當中沒有感情的牽絆,是大自然裡純粹的繁衍定律,這個時候的行為就稱之為「性交」。在生物或動物的交配上,我們鮮少使用「做愛」這個字,因為人類在繁衍行為的過程中,比起生物和多數動物更難能可貴的就是,在我們的大腦、心理和身體中,甚至是肌膚和神經每一寸都分布著感情。人類擁有自己的想法與意念,同時也不全然是為了繁衍後代而性交。人類與生俱來的思維、心靈和情感交流賦予了性更深層意義的,就是愛。
▇ Make Love = 生理的結合 + 心理的交流
「愛」可以是動詞、形容詞、名詞,但它往往無法有具象的解釋,於是兩人之間感情好的極致呈現,就是附諸行動的「做愛」。做愛,是將我們身上每一個感官按鈕開啟交融的結晶,雙方除了能感受到最緊密的肌膚接觸外,身體的每一寸神經也能帶給我們各種細膩的感受。以愛情為延伸的性行為,不僅是肉體與生理的結合,更因為有愛環繞的心靈交流,相輔相成,才造就出完美的親密情感和快樂情緒。
幼兒期 → 接受愛青春期 → 追求愛成熟期 → 給予愛
如果我們把愛放大,不要只侷限在愛情裡,把人類一生與「愛」的關係,拆成幾個階段來看,每個年齡、性別、個性甚至人種,都能組合出不同的「愛的模式」。就算地域和民情風俗的差異,大致上都脫離不了「幼兒期(接受愛)、青春期(追求愛)、成熟期(給予愛)」三個階段,所以若把人的一生形容為學習愛的過程,一點也不為過。
幼兒時期,多數的時間裡,我們都是在接受父母與長輩給予的愛。這時候的愛是無私的、不求回報的,如果我們沒有這些愛,就無法延續生命。一到青春期,我們開始有了自己的思想,懂得自我想追尋的目標,開始進入了尋覓式的求愛階段。雖然在前一個階段,我們已接受過許多愛,但這時期我們對於愛仍然懵懵懂懂。我們邊追求愛,也邊認識愛,旅途中可能有歡笑,也有淚水。直到一定年齡,我們變得成熟,明白了愛的真諦,對愛已有深刻的了解,也開始懂得付出,這時我們一生學習的旅程才臻至圓滿。
我們還從中學到:愛,沒有固定形式,但卻存於世界上的各個角落裡。它可能在母親望著嬰兒的眼裡,也可能在情人之間互送的花束裡,或是在你從商店出來時,買給流浪狗吃的罐頭食物裡。這些人生階段所產生的各種不同感情,都能讓我們了解,愛其實沒有固定形式,而每一種不同思維所產生的愛的元素,樣貌雖不同,卻永遠有一個共通點,那就是「交流」:一個心靈與另一個心靈的互動。
▇ 少了愛,又怎能做好愛
找出自己愛人的方式,平衡被愛的方式,逐漸在生活中摸索出體悟,自然而然地,當兩個人身體有了親密的接觸,就會明白需要用何種方式去做愛。因為愛的道理不會改變,發自真心的愛,透過體貼的心意與無微不至的愛撫,一定能夠讓對方了解情意,進而得到滿足。反過來說,如果少了心靈的交流,純粹只是肉體在運動,那就像沒有要繁衍後代的「性交」行為,而不是真正的「做愛」了。了解性愛中真正的本質後,我們還必須知道,在親密關係裡,性愛雖非全部卻也相當重要,但若能做好這件事,經營婚姻與家庭,都會變得簡單許多,這也是性愛的可貴之處。
假如愛是場表演,那麼精彩好看的內容,絕不會憑空出現。一定需要長期的醞釀與準備,才有可能創作出來,就像我們常聽到的「台上一分鐘,台下十年功!」唯有在平凡的日子裡,日積月累地醞釀出愛的能量,才能夠在每一次和愛人結合時,創作一場完美的愛情演出。
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